Now You See Him, Now You Don't

Hello there. I'm a girl. I'm a freshman. Sound good? People think I'm cute, too. That all seems to me like a good way to become popular on this here Trinity campus, doesn't it? No? Aww, that makes me sad. You mean I can't get by on being attractive? Heck, even the first top ten list of this here publication the Tripod, said I could: "How to get freshman girls." Catchy, huh?

Now, let me just say to any fellow frosh girls reading this, don't even try to tell me you don't enjoy it. I do. You do. We all do. It's fun to be chased. Yet, there is a line to be drawn. I do not propose to draw that line. I do not propose to change the celebrated tradition of treating a new shipment of freshman girls like new territory to be marked. Namely because I can't.

The only thing this here freshman chick would like to talk about is how disappointing it is that having a boyfriend back home is actually an influencing factor on whether or not people (guys) even want to know you. I must admit, there is an added spark in any new friendship if both parties have a bit of sexual interest in each other. That is completely natural, and after all, we are still kids. That is changing, as is the nature of passing through adolescence and college, but many people on this campus don't seem to realize that. They are still being led, controlled, and owned by their hormones.

As I've said, and will continue to stress, there is nothing wrong with wanting play and therefore going out and getting it. Even your typical frat boys can make that cross from point A to point B. My point is that it is a bit disheartening to be in a nice conversation with a new friend and then find that, upon mention of the "B-word", with whom you have a long-distance "R-word" the idea of even a friendship goes soaring over the hills.

Now honestly ladies, not that a guy shouldn't be psyched to find out that you don't have a boyfriend if he's into you, but isn't it a bit hurtful if that is all they want to know? If it's a huge let-down and they let you know it that's even flattering, but rapidly switches to degrading if they never speak to you again. Frankly, if some guy can't see any other reason to associate with girls than to get laid, I don't see what girl in her right mind would go near him anyway.

If a guy strikes up a nice conversation with a girl, and he happens to find out that, through no fault of his own (remember the "B" word) he hasn't got a chance in hell, that's no reason for him to all of a sudden forget the English language and flee for the hills. Or rather, to make a mad dash towards the next hottie in the vicinity. It kinda makes a girl feel a bit like a piece of meat.

Boys, you need a reality check here. There is nothing wrong with mackin' it to the ladies. It kinks your style if they're taken, of course. But quite literally, can't we all just get along?