First or Hundredth?

By Eric Lavigne

Staff Writer

ex can be one of the most sensually gratifying experiences two people can share. But, is it better the first time with a new partner or is it more gratifying once you have become sexually familiar with that person? Many people would argue that the first time with a new lover is the best. But I find that sexual familiarity with your partner creates an atmosphere that is more sensual than the environment experienced during the initial sexual encounter.
Very rarely are both people satisfied the first time they have sex with each other. It is usually a clumsy encounter that does not fufill either of the individuals' expectations. The initial chase involved when establishing the relationship often sets off feelings of passion and desire. Therefore, the first sexual encounter usually results in two people trying to lustfully satisfy themselves without taking the other person's desires into consideration. The gratification of actually getting the opportunity to have sex with the individual they are chasing may occupy the person's attention to the point that they are not interested in pleasing their new found lover.
One's first time should be used as a learning experience. People should realize that they might have approached their initial sexual encounter in a less than ideal way, and, therefore decide that they are going to learn from the mistakes they might have made the first time. The initial experience of self absorption is constantly replayed in a person's mind, often resulting in embarrassment, forcing them to focus more on their partner than on themselves. As sexual encounters become more frequent and become more comfortable with each other, sex will seem more natural, less rushed, and more gratifying. Each partner learns the other's mind and body, creating a much more sensual atmosphere, resulting in a chance for both of the individuals to reach ultimate satisfaction. Both people should be able to achieve satisfaction from the sex they are having. When people take the time to learn about their partner, sex becomes a much more meaningful experience, rather than a savage act to achieve some hormonally induced desire.
When asked what is better, the first or the hundredth time, I have to say the hundredth. Sure the chase is fun, but satisfying your partner is more gratifying than actually getting your partner in bed for the first time. The initial sexual experiences one has remains with them forever, and for those reasons they are special. But as one becomes more comfortable with their partner the sex gets increasingly better. In short, being a good lover is much better than using someone to satisfy an itch.