Take Individual Responsibility:
- Take care of yourself as well as others.
- Keep an eye out for your friends
- Get consent for every step of a sexual interaction
- Respect yourself and your body.
- Drink responsibly. Know your limits. Drinking increases aggression, decreases comprehension, and decreases inhibition. It decreases enjoyable sex. It increases the likelihood of nonconsensual sex or rape.
- Speak up and step in safely if the actions or words of a friend, teammate, or Greek brother or sister are harmful.
- Don’t blame survivors–it is never their fault.
Determine what you want and what you don't want and communicate your limits clearly. No one should pressure you into unwanted sexual activity. If you are uncertain about what you want, ask your partner to respect your feelings.
- Know that you have the right and power to say "No" and the right and power to defend yourself against someone who won't listen to you. If you say "No", say it firmly and directly.
- Trust your intuition. If you feel something is wrong, it likely is. Remove yourself from the situation and get to a safe space as quickly as you can.
- Attend parties with friends you can trust. Agree to 'look out' for one another. Try to leave with a group, rather than alone or with someone you don't know very well.
- Look for danger signals in a dating relationship. If your partner restricts your activities, isolates you from friends, and displays jealous behavior, he or she may eventually rape and/or beat you.
- Talk with your friends about ways you've learned to prevent rape and violence.
- Get consent. Respect your partner's feelings and needs. Don't pressure anyone to go beyond the limits she or he has set. Listen carefully to your partner and ask for clarification if your partner seems unclear or is giving you a 'mixed message'.
- Respect the person when she or he says "No" to sexual activity and comply. "No" does not mean "Yes"; "No" means "No".
- If you see someone in a vulnerable position, find a non-threatening way to help. Don't ignore a potential case of rape-- get involved if you believe someone is at risk.
- Be careful in group situations- resist pressure from friends to participate in or be subjected to violent or criminal acts.
- Don't make assumptions about a person's behavior. Don't automatically assume a person wants to have sex just because s/he drinks heavily, dresses provocatively, or agrees to go back to your room.
- Don't assume that just because a person has had sex with you previously s/he is willing to have sex with you again. Don't assume that just because your partner consents to kissing or other sexual intimacies that she or he is willing to have sexual intercourse.
BYSTANDER INTERVENTION AND SEXUAL ASSAULT PREVENTION
Everyone at Trinity has a role to play in preventing sexual misconduct and stalking. Bystander intervention is the most effective means of preventing an incident of sexual assault on campus.Bystander intervention involves developing the awareness, skills, and courage needed to intervene in a situation when another individual needs help. Bystander intervention allows individuals to send powerful messages about what is acceptable and expected behavior in our community.
When are you more likely to intervene?
- You are alone in witnessing the situation or with only a few others: the more people present, the lesser the likelihood of a bystander intervening, i.e. someone else will do it.
- You know how to intervene or what to do.
- You are aware there is a problem and recognize the potential negative impact.
- You have something in common with the victim: gender, race, or a similar situation happened to you.
- You can intervene safely, without harm to yourself or others.You have witnessed active bystander behavior in the past or were helped by an active bystander.
Questions to ask during the situation:
- What are my available options?
- How can I intervene safely?
Are there others I can call upon for help?
- What are the benefits/costs of taking action?
Tips and ABCs:
- Intervene at the earliest point possible.
- Look for early warning signs of trouble.
- Intervening does not necessarily mean confronting.
- Ask for help.
- Assess for safety. Be with others. Care for the victim.
How do I intervene safely?
The 3 D’s: Direct, Distract, Delegate
Definitions and Examples:
Direct: Tell someone directly to halt an action. "Don’t leave (the party) with her. She can’t stand up. My friends and I will walk her back to her dorm."
"Stop hitting him. Now."
"Stop disrespecting her. That’s harassment."
Distract: Take someone out of the situation. Engage the person in another situation.
"Don’t I know you from psych class? Can we talk about that exam?"
"Isn’t that Ke$ha playing? Let’s go dance!"
"My car is out back. Can I give you a ride home?"
Delegate: Find others to intervene with you or for you.
Talk to the social host or bartender and enlst their help.
Find friends of those involved in the situation and ask them for their help.
Call Campus Safety for their help or to notify the Administrator on Call (AOC).
Call the Hartford Police Department if the situation merits.